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How Couples Can Be Less Codependent And Move Toward Interdependence
Couples and Relationships, Communication Laurel Roberts-Meese Couples and Relationships, Communication Laurel Roberts-Meese

How Couples Can Be Less Codependent And Move Toward Interdependence

While closeness in a relationships feels good, losing your independent sense of self isn't good for anyone. Transitioning from codependence to interdependence—a state where partners support each other while maintaining their own identities—requires effort. Here's how to do it.

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What is Codependency? A Couples Therapist Explains
Couples and Relationships, Attachment Laurel Roberts-Meese Couples and Relationships, Attachment Laurel Roberts-Meese

What is Codependency? A Couples Therapist Explains

The term "codependency" is used to describe relationships where one person seems to lose themselves in the needs of another. Originally rooted in the context of addiction and substance use, the term has broadened to include a range of unhealthy relational dynamics. Let’s explore what codependency is and how it manifests in relationships.

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What’s the Difference? Relationship Dealbreakers, Incompatibilities & Perpetual Problems
Couples and Relationships, Dating, Boundaries Laurel Roberts-Meese Couples and Relationships, Dating, Boundaries Laurel Roberts-Meese

What’s the Difference? Relationship Dealbreakers, Incompatibilities & Perpetual Problems

Relationships are beautifully complex. They can be challenging, with issues that test the strength of your bond. Understanding the differences between dealbreakers, incompatibilities, perpetual problems, and differences in core values can help you navigate your relationship better and determine when couples therapy might be needed.

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Deep, Meaningful Relationships Are The True Markers of Health and Success
Couples and Relationships, Holistic Therapy, Attachment Laurel Roberts-Meese Couples and Relationships, Holistic Therapy, Attachment Laurel Roberts-Meese

Deep, Meaningful Relationships Are The True Markers of Health and Success

We often measure success by our job titles, salaries, and material possessions. It's become too easy to prioritize external achievements and milestones. Yet, research consistently shows that the true cornerstone of happiness lies in the quality of our relationships. Whether it's with family, friends, or partners, these connections have a profound impact on our life satisfaction. Here's why, and how millennials can create more depth in our relationships.

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Healthy Relationships: How To Repair After a Rupture
Couples and Relationships Laurel Roberts-Meese Couples and Relationships Laurel Roberts-Meese

Healthy Relationships: How To Repair After a Rupture

If you've never learned the art of healthy repair, you're not alone. Many people don't have positive models for how to repair after a rupture. Rest assured, it's a skill that can be cultivated over time. Here's how to start repairing relationships after a rupture, whether it's with a partner, friend, colleague, or family member.

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Internalized Homophobia in Lesbian Couples: Overcoming Through LGBT Couples Therapy
LGBT Mental Health, LGBTQ, Couples and Relationships Laurel Roberts-Meese LGBT Mental Health, LGBTQ, Couples and Relationships Laurel Roberts-Meese

Internalized Homophobia in Lesbian Couples: Overcoming Through LGBT Couples Therapy

Life is a shared journey when you're part of a couple. Like any journey, it has its share of challenges. One significant challenge that can impact a lesbian relationship's health is internalized homophobia. Its effects can be simple but profound: feelings of shame, guilt, or self-rejection that stem from prejudices against non-straight people.

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Proven Kinds Of Therapy: What They Are And When They’re Helpful

Proven Kinds Of Therapy: What They Are And When They’re Helpful

Evidence-based practices are essential foundations in therapy. They're supported by research and clinical experience. Not all therapists use them, and some of these methods may not work for everyone. Here's a brief explanation of different types of therapy and alternatives to consider if these practices don't work for you.

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Sex After Sexual Trauma: How To Be A Good Lover To A Survivor
Trauma, Couples and Relationships, Sexual Trauma Laurel Roberts-Meese Trauma, Couples and Relationships, Sexual Trauma Laurel Roberts-Meese

Sex After Sexual Trauma: How To Be A Good Lover To A Survivor

When and how to approach sex with someone who has been assaulted can be tricky business. Every experience is different, and no amount of research or good intention can replace healthy communication with your partner. Here's what you should know about how to be a great partner, spouse, lover, or friend-with-benefits to someone who has been sexually assaulted or raped.

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What We Can Learn From Michelle Obama’s Experience In Couples Therapy
Couples and Relationships Laurel Roberts-Meese Couples and Relationships Laurel Roberts-Meese

What We Can Learn From Michelle Obama’s Experience In Couples Therapy

Couples often come to therapy at a point of crisis or significant life changes. The hope is for a sudden, dramatic turnaround in the relationship. And it's totally possible to change. We've seen it happen. But a roadblock arises when someone expects their partner to be the sole catalyst for change. Even Michelle Obama experienced this. Let's explore why this can be problematic and why a different approach is key in couples therapy.

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13 Ways To Support Your Anxious Partner
Couples and Relationships, Anxiety Laurel Roberts-Meese Couples and Relationships, Anxiety Laurel Roberts-Meese

13 Ways To Support Your Anxious Partner

It's hard when your partner is going through something you can't fix. Anxiety can be a challenging experience, not just for the person going through it but also for their partner. If your loved one is dealing with anxiety, it's hard to know where to start. Here are 13 practical strategies for being there for your partner.

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Couples Therapy Isn't Always About Staying Together
Couples and Relationships Laurel Roberts-Meese Couples and Relationships Laurel Roberts-Meese

Couples Therapy Isn't Always About Staying Together

Couples therapy is often seen as a last-ditch effort to salvage a relationship. But the goal of couples therapy isn't always keeping couples together. A good therapist is committed to ensuring that both parties find the path that's best for them. In some cases, therapy might lead to a couple making the difficult decision to part ways. And that's okay! Let's explore how therapy can help couples separate with integrity.

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Rethinking Outdated Marriage Advice: Beyond "Happy Wife, Happy Life"
Couples and Relationships Laurel Roberts-Meese Couples and Relationships Laurel Roberts-Meese

Rethinking Outdated Marriage Advice: Beyond "Happy Wife, Happy Life"

When it comes to relationship advice, one old adage that keeps echoing is "Happy wife, happy life." It's a well-meant sentiment, but it's time to rethink this age-old saying. The notion of permanent happiness and self-sacrifice can be problematic. This is true in any relationship, regardless of gender. It's time move from this simplistic adage into a more empowered approach to marital happiness.

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